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You Finally Take an Hour for Yourself. And Spend the Entire Time Feeling Guilty About It. Shall I, shan't I, shall I, shan't I? Do I deserve it? Have I worked hard enough? Would I be judged? Should I go? You know this internal dialogue. You've been having it for years. And you finally reach that moment where you think "sod it, let's just get it booked. I deserve it. I'm worth it. I haven't had a break for 18 months." So you scroll. Five star? Then you lower your expectations

🎄That’s a wrap!🎄 Well, that was a year. Hi lovely people, As we're wrapping up 2025, I thought I'd send a quick update on what's been happening here at Alexandra Mukosi Mind & Body - the wins, the challenges, and what's coming next. Clearly I'm still here, still learning, still pushing outside my comfort zone (even when it's terrifying). The new 12 week programme This year I finally did the thing I'd been thinking about for ages - I created my 12 week 1-2-1 coaching program

I've been working with women for over a decade now - holistic therapies, life coaching. And I kept seeing the same pattern repeating itself. Smart, capable women would come to me completely exhausted. Not just physically tired, but depleted in a way that sleep couldn't fix. They'd look up from the madness of daily life and realise they didn't know who they were anymore beyond what everyone else needed from them. Some had lost themselves along the way - buried under years of p

If you've seen any of my social media posts on perfectionism and people pleasing, you'll know I spent decades trapped in patterns that kept me exhausted, resentful, and performing for everyone else. The perfectionism made me feel like I was never good enough unless everything was flawless. The people pleasing made me say yes to everything while slowly losing myself in the process. And the thing that's helped me recover from both? Boundaries. Not the weak, apologetic boundarie

I used to think being a people pleaser made me a good person. Accommodating, caring, always there when someone needed me. I'd say yes when every cell in my body was signalling no. I'd agree when I disagreed. I'd smile when I was screaming inside. I genuinely believed that if I could just make everyone else happy, I'd finally be worthy of love. Turns out, people pleasing isn't kindness at all. It's fear wearing a very convincing disguise. And it took me decades – and some pret

I used to think my perfectionism was a strength. Something that set me apart, made me better, proved I had high standards. I genuinely believed that my inability to do anything at less than 100% was what made me good at things. Turns out, it was actually the thing keeping me stuck, burnt out, and constantly stressed. And the worst part? I couldn't see it because perfectionism is really bloody good at disguising itself as ambition, dedication, and having your shit together. Le

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This topic is a biggie and deeply personal for me. And I know I'm not alone in this.......the more people I speak to about it, the more...

When I first learned about holistic life coaching, I was a bit skeptical. “Is it just another trend?” I wondered. “How is it different...

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Welcome! I'm so happy you chose to give this blog a read. If you've ever felt a bit lost, out of sorts, unsure about your purpose, or...